tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13165737.post397640515432026705..comments2023-10-09T08:40:34.386-04:00Comments on Two Yorks and a Bean: WEEKDAY "WHAT IF?"yorksnbeanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14374648174893672244noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13165737.post-76614073174668951582009-04-22T01:55:00.000-04:002009-04-22T01:55:00.000-04:00I'd tell her exactly what I thought about what she...I'd tell her exactly what I thought about what she was doing and then stand by her through all of it.Geonitenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13165737.post-43722416332377442762009-04-21T09:27:00.000-04:002009-04-21T09:27:00.000-04:00Thank you for your input, Toneman!Thank you for your input, Toneman!yorksnbeanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14374648174893672244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13165737.post-9563738316553708732009-04-20T17:36:00.000-04:002009-04-20T17:36:00.000-04:00I would talk to my friend about the whole situatio...I would talk to my friend about the whole situation asking why he/she was doing this. I would listen intently, offer any advice I might have and try to help them through it. Never a good situation to be in.yorkrose55noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13165737.post-92206980405653315992009-04-20T13:43:00.000-04:002009-04-20T13:43:00.000-04:00I've been friends with her since I was eleven, so ...I've been friends with her since I was eleven, so it's not really an option for me to walk away from my friend. And I don't personally think that would be the right choice. The situation didn't last very long, so I don't actually know how I would have felt about it if it were ongoing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13165737.post-32152051343003709712009-04-20T13:23:00.000-04:002009-04-20T13:23:00.000-04:00oooh...yes, that much of an insecurity could lead ...oooh...yes, that much of an insecurity could lead to trouble in a marriage. <br /><br />It is a very difficult question and of course there are numerous scenarios, but that bottom line is the sanctity of marriage (on either side). I would definitely have to say something and not turn my head. If my friend were married, it would add an additional dilemma. But, in either case I would try and discuss it civilly, but if it persisted, I would have to question my actual friendship. I'm not sure I could continue being a friend, for an extended period of time, knowing it was happening with no intention of it ending. I also know I would not tattle to a spouse.yorksnbeanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14374648174893672244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13165737.post-85565984705621559422009-04-20T12:36:00.000-04:002009-04-20T12:36:00.000-04:00Wow, that's a tough one. Actually, that exact thi...Wow, that's a tough one. Actually, that exact thing happened. My best friend had an affair. I didn't end up saying anything to her husband, but he found out anyway. The only thing was, she was the married one. What I did was suggest that maybe she was making the wrong choices, and that if she was that unhappy in the marriage then maybe she should file for divorce. <br /><br />They seem to have worked things out, mostly, except that her husband calls her fifty times a day to see what she's up to. Only he did that BEFORE she ever had the affair too, which was part of her justification for doing it. I guess we all have to walk in our own paths thru life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com